3 Times to Say No – Even If You’re a People Pleaser
Some business consultants and coaches rave about the power of saying yes. And I can understand why.
If you find that fears are holding you back from breaking through barriers in your life, forcing yourself to say yes means facing fears head on. Likewise, if you’re the type of person who over-analyzes the choices you make, giving up control and saying yes can be freeing and lead to new experiences and opportunities. Saying yes in the right circumstances can lead to breakthroughs and new-found self-confidence.
But have you ever stopped to think about how saying yes too often may actually be hindering your growth?
The word no exists because we are meant to have limits in our personal and professional lives. These boundaries keep us level-headed and safe from harm so that we can function and live productive, meaningful, and fulfilling lives.
Saying yes too often means piling on so much responsibility that the stress is crippling and there is no time left to solve problems or think creatively. Saying yes to the wrong people or opportunities can be counter-productive at best, and toxic at worst.
Yet, many of us feel a sense of obligation to say yes to everything, in both our personal and professional lives. Particularly among my female clients, I have found that the propensity toward people pleasing is deeply ingrained. You might not even know why it’s so hard to say no, but you have trouble doing so nonetheless.
Saying no is not a sign of weakness. In fact, it’s a strength.
Saying no is a normal and expected part of doing business. So long as you say no professionally and respectfully, you don’t need to feel guilty nor should you feel the need to apologize. When you say no in order to protect yourself, your time, and your business, you set yourself up for success.
When It Pays to Say No
When you want to grow your business or your career, it can feel like saying yes as often as possible is necessary. While saying yes can open doors, here are 3 situations where saying yes results in over commitment or stress – both of which are bad for business.
1. Say No to “Freebies.”
You know what it takes to do your job properly and how much revenue you need to generate. Stand by your pricing and the value of your time!
When clients ask for a steep discount, pressure you to offer a special deal, or request that you “do this one small thing” without offering to pay for it, it’s important that you politely but firmly stand your ground.
If you do feel compelled to offer a discounted rate, make sure you’re doing so because you really want to, not because you’re afraid other business won’t come along. You can also try negotiating an arrangement that benefits you. For instance, you may choose to offer a reduced rate in exchange for a longer contract, a larger order, or a new client referral. Just make sure the arrangement is a win-win situation you feel good about.
Remember, you run a business, not a charity. And speaking of charity, sit down and decide which organizations you want to support, how much time you are able to invest, and your budget for supporting your designated charities. Then honor your commitments.
2. Say No to Toxic Clients.
Most entrepreneurs and sales professionals have had “those” clients who, quite honestly, are more trouble than they are worth. Perhaps they are aggressive, overly demanding, or simply rude. Or maybe they don’t pay on time or take up far more time than is reasonable.
If you find yourself with a toxic client on your hands, you have a decision to make. The first step is to open up the lines of communication and set boundaries about what you will and will not accept. If they don’t comply, it’s time to amicably part ways with that client.
When generating new business, if you sense a prospective client may be toxic, clearly state your policies up front. Doing so will allow you to establish boundaries that weed out the clients you shouldn’t be working with in any case. You should never work with a toxic client because you fear that you can’t afford not to. At Celeste Giordano Coaching, I help clients develop a referral system that allows them to generate quality leads so they are never in a position where they need to say yes to toxic clients.
3. Say No to Working 24/7.
Some of my clients who are business owners come to me when they are burnt out. They complain that despite working early hours and late nights, they haven’t reached their goals and aren’t sure what to do to turn things around.
It’s important to recognize that working around the clock is not the key to a prosperous business. Over committing yourself and working non-stop only breeds exhaustion and stress. To be a productive and successful business owner, you need to put your priorities in place: first and foremost your health, spiritual relationship, family, and friends.
If you find that it’s hard to say no to working 24/7, you need to learn to work smarter, not harder. At Celeste Giordano Coaching, I help business owners implement systems that allow them to achieve better RESULTS more quickly and with less stress and aggravation.
Once you’ve learned to say no to what’s holding you back, you can focus on saying yes to the right opportunities that will allow your business to flourish. Contact me today to find out how to “Double Plus” your income in 2019 with confidence and peace of mind.
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